What Song is Playing on the Soundtrack of Your Life?

Terri Wingham is the founder and CEO of A Fresh Chapter, a cancer survivor, and someone who believes that we are not defined by the most difficult aspects of our story.

Written by Terri Wingham | August 12, 2011

Call me crazy, but does your life have a soundtrack too?

My soundtrack probably starts with the jingle at the beginning of Mr. Dress Up. Back in the days when I thought Casey and Finnegan were real and my sister, Katy, and I had a pretend tickle trunk in our shared bedroom.

Then in 1985, the Movie, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun came out and as soon as Dad bought our first VCR a year or so later, Katy and I begged Mom every Friday night to rent the video so we could pull on our leg warmers, crimp our hair, and dance through the living room. Ok, I admit – I kept checking out my “amazing” dance moves in the window and believed one day, someone would “discover” me. My complete lack of dance training didn’t seem to matter as I fantasized about how SJP’s character and I would become BFFs and I would grow up to meet a hot teenage boy who danced better than Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing, which I had only heard about, but never watched because of its “mature subject matter”.

Later, Garth Brooks claimed his slot on the soundtrack after countless Grade 8-10 (bench warming) basketball road trips when someone on the team would turn the dial on a ghetto blaster and we would sing along to The River, and then discuss how some of God’s greatest gifts really were Unanswered Prayers (as if we had any idea what that meant)Eventually, one of the girls would grow tired of our sad country songs, load her Nirvana CD, and we would all wail along with Kurt Cobain to Come as You Are.

Then, my life changed forever, or so I thought, when I turned 16 and passed my driving test. To celebrate my freedom and my entry into “adulthood”, I plugged my Discman into the cigarette lighter, cranked the stereo on Dad’s teal, four door, Ford Escort and belted out every single word to Mr. Jones by the Counting Crows. “We all want something beautiful, yeah I wish I was beautiful…believe in me…help me believe in anything…I wanna be someone who believes“. Now the words seem even more poignant than they did then, “grey is my favourite colour, if  I knew Picasso, I would buy myself a grey guitar and play….when everybody loves me, I will never be lonely. (more…)

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  • Marie Ennis O'Connor • August 16, 2011

    What a great question! I was thinking about the answer to this, when I remembered that at the time I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2004, I heard Lee Anne Womack’s version of I Hope You Dance and it became the soundtrack of my recovery during that scary and lonely time. I’ve heard lots of different versions but hers is the one that remains most true to how I felt at the time.

    I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
    You get your fill to eat
    But always keep that hunger
    May you never take one single breath for granted
    God forbid love ever leave you empty handed
    I hope you still feel small
    When you stand by the ocean
    Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
    Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance

    And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
    I hope you dance
    I hope you dance

    I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
    Never settle for the path of least resistance
    Living might mean taking chances
    But they’re worth taking
    Lovin’ might be a mistake
    But it’s worth making
    Don’t let some hell bent heart
    Leave you bitter
    When you come close to selling out
    Reconsider
    Give the heavens above
    More than just a passing glance

    And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
    I hope you dance
    (Time is a real and constant motion always)
    I hope you dance
    (Rolling us along)
    I hope you dance
    (Tell me who)
    I hope you dance
    (Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
    (Where those years have gone)

    I hope you still feel small
    When you stand by the ocean
    Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
    Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance

    And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance
    Dance
    I hope you dance
    I hope you dance
    (Time is a real and constant motion always)
    I hope you dance
    (Rolling us along)
    I hope you dance
    (Tell me who)
    (Wants to look back on their youth and wonder)
    I hope you dance
    (Where those years have gone)

  • Terri Wingham • August 16, 2011

    Marie,
    I LOVE this song. Thank you so much for sharing the lyrics and how it impacted you.
    Big hugs!
    T
    xo

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