It Only Took 3 Seconds…

Terri Wingham is the founder and CEO of A Fresh Chapter, a cancer survivor, and someone who believes that we are not defined by the most difficult aspects of our story.

Written by Terri Wingham | May 24, 2012

Usually it takes 3 days, but this time it only took 3 seconds…

After almost 8 months of homelessness and 4.5 months in foreign countries, I have to admit to myself, and to you, that the first 3 days in a new place sometimes have me riding on the “poor me” train.

Although I have all of the anticipatory excitement pre-arrival, sadness and nostalgia often stand waiting for me in the arrivals area as I look around at all of the happy reunions and remember the new and old friends I have left behind. The pit of homesickness continues to gather in my stomach as I am bombarded with apprehension over the strange faces and customs surrounding me. (If you read Risk Taking 101 – you’ll know how I feel about change – especially without my pillow and duvet.)

Maybe you can relate to those little travel irritations that bubble under my skin – the lumpiness of a new bed, the middle of the night stumble as I grope dark doorways searching for the bathroom, or the nagging tightness in my jeans as I search for gluten-free options that don’t include rice, potatoes, french fries or the risk of picking up a parasite.

Thankfully, day two dawns with a sliver of optimism, a swift (self-imposed) kick in the ass, and a reminder to embrace every moment of my adventure. As soon as I can get away, I lace up my sneakers and head out to explore my surroundings. With every step, the unfamiliar starts to feel a little more like home and by day 3, I have found a corner cafe with the perfect cafe con leche (latte), traded a smile or a story with my host family or another volunteer, and captured a few moments to share with all of you on my faithful traveling companion (my Canon T1i).

So, what do I mean when I say it only took 3 seconds this time?

I’m not talking about settling into Urubamba, Peru. I haven’t figured out a way to speed up that process – especially when jumping into the deep end of the cultural pool (i.e. sitting at the dinner table with a local family, eating traditional food, while Spanish whips mostly in one ear and out the other.)

No – this 3 seconds happened on the afternoon of my third day in Urubamba and the first day of my volunteer placement with ProWorld. That morning, I had an orientation with the cleaner burning stoves project, and I have to admit – I was impressed. I had no idea that indoor air pollution is a leading cause of death in the developing world or that the stove ProWorld has designed is literally saving lives in the communities of Peru.

That afternoon, I set off, on foot, for one of those tiny hillside communities – perched high above Urubamba. Up through the narrow streets of the town, I took in the faded buildings stacked against each other and wound my way to where the pavement ended and gravel began to crunch beneath my sneakers. Twenty minutes of heavy breathing later, the road veered to the left and I saw her standing on the trail. Her backpack tight against her shoulders and her uniform coated in a thin layer of dust, she stood as if she had been expecting me and waited while I picked my way over a couple of big rocks.

When I came up beside her, she joined in the ascent. With intense concentration, I rolled the few words in my Spanish vocabulary off my tongue. She covered her mouth to hide her giggles at my awkward attempts at conversation. When I asked if she spoke English, she blushed and continued to giggle.

Onwards we walked, past squat houses with Spanish tile roofs faded to a rusty brown; through hillsides blanketed in a patchwork of vivid green; and up to the centre of the tiny community of Chicon. When I pointed towards the community centre, my new friend waved goodbye and I ascended the last few steps on my own.

With my breath heaving in my chest, I surveyed the circle of local women at my feet. Each one of them looked up from her knitting and rose to greet me with a kiss on the cheek. Within 3 seconds, I felt as welcomed to their fray as if I had spent my childhood chasing the sheep through the mossy hills. My fellow volunteer, an alum of 9 months, explained my presence in Spanish and they each turned a beautifully weathered face to me and smiled with such sincerity that I felt like a bedgraggled traveler coming home.

Home to a community of women who meet twice a week to knit their way towards a better life. Women who sell their wares, through the ProWorld Women’s Artisanal Program, to people, most of whom they will never meet, both locally and internationally. Their one of a kind scarves, ponchos, hats, and purses will leave this hillside community behind and travel much further than the artisans ever will. The profits earned will help educate their children or feed their families and this twice weekly activity will continue to strengthen the bonds of this community and provide an outlet for these women from the daily rigours of life in the Andean mountains.

As I paused for a moment to take in the beauty of those mountains, I sank to the cement wall and wished I could stay forever. It took only three seconds for these unassuming women to open their circle to me; three seconds for me to fall headlong into connection and community; and three seconds to remember why every uncomfortable or homesick moment on the road is 100% worth it.

Here are a few more images of Urubamaba, Peru:

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Comments (10)
  • The M Half • May 24, 2012

    Thank goodness for even more than 3 seconds with incredible people. Your journey is inspiring and making a difference not only to those you meet face to face, but those who read your words here. Keep it up, girlfriend. Love you!

  • Terri Wingham • May 28, 2012

    Thank you so much lovely girl. I am loving the opportunity to bring you all along with me for the journey. Big hugs and hope you’re settling back into life in Austin! T xo

  • Marie Ennis-O'Connor (@JBBC) • May 25, 2012

    Terri, thank you for being so honest about the reality of your travels – I think it is so important to tell the full story – otherwise we all think you are some kind of invincible superwoman who doesn’t suffer from things like homesickness, vulnerability and fears like the rest of us mere mortals 😉 And if we thought that then we would never have the courage to go after our own dreams and adventures. I know how much you admire Brene Brown – and it was you introduced me to her work on vulnerability – so this post reminded me once again how much of a blessing we give each other when we have the courage to share our own vulnerabilities.

  • Terri Wingham • May 28, 2012

    Marie – Thank you so much for the comment and for including me in this week’s wrap up. I am happy to share the real deal with all of you. Life is about being vulnerable and imperfect. As Brene would say, vulnerability is the birthplace of real connection. Sending you really huge hugs from Urubamba. T xo

  • Catherine • May 25, 2012

    To be welcomed is a wonderful feeling – it melts away the anxiety and brings you into the group. I’m so glad you were welcomed, and accepted so immediately. Sounds as though Peru is treating you well. It’s been a pleasure to read about your adventures down there (since it’s always been a slight mystery and fascination for me.).
    How many more countries will be you visiting, Terri? Eight months has already passed! I can hardly believe you’ve been away & doing so much for so long.

    And it’s a considerable challenge to find gluten free that isn’t laden with rice or potato, isn’t it? I feel you, and that relatable 3-day-to-pass nervous energy. But at least you always know it will pass.

  • Terri Wingham • May 28, 2012

    Catherine – Thank you so much for you comment. It’s always so great to hear from you and I’m happy to give you the skinny on all things Peru when we chat again. Keep doing all of the great things you’re doing at home and I’ll chat with you soon! T xo

  • Richard Webb • May 25, 2012

    Hello Terri,
    I loved reading your piece. You know, I had a similar experience in that very valley some 13 years ago when I first began building the relationships that would end up in me forming ProPeru (now ProWorld). While Peruvian myself, these communities were certainly new to me and I had a great deal of learning to do, so to hear of vivid accounts really brings me back.

    I am inspired by your journey and grateful that you have shared it with ProWorld and the readers here.

    Quite frankly, it has always been about the spirit of the volunteer. That is what serves our communities and motivates our staff.

    Un fuerte abrazo, mi amigo

    Richard (President and Founder – ProWorld)

  • Terri Wingham • May 28, 2012

    Richard,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post and leave a comment. I continue to be incredibly impressed with everyone at ProWorld and I am so happy to have this opportunity to volunteer with all of your colleagues and get a better understanding of the wonderful organization you founded. The people in the communities around Urubamba have inspired me more than I can articulate. I look forward to continuing to find ways to partner with all of you in the months and years to come.
    Thank you again!
    Terri

  • Camille Webb • May 25, 2012

    Beautiful, moving and inspiring in so many ways! Thank you for taking the time to share.

  • Terri Wingham • May 28, 2012

    Camille – Thank you so much for you comment. It means the world to me to be able to share my wonderful experiences with ProWorld in Urubamba with all of you. Big hugs! Terri xo

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